The age old relationship blunder, "why the hell are you going through my phone"? My past relationship came to many screeching halts on many occassions because my nosy and insecure man wanted to play inspector gadget! Why do we as humans scratch to go through our partners phone. Is it because you suspect them of cheating or you just want to see what they are up to? STOP! You want to see if they are cheating on you. I personally have a big problem with this. I can easily put a security code on my phone but I dont feel I need to. If a man is going to date me he better be so secure about himself that he can pass my blackberry to me even if he see's a male's picture come on up on the caller ID! Im so G with my shit, I have to have things in perspective when it comes to the phone! I think its a violation of privacy to go through someones phone. On the other hand some of you are players to the third power and want to have your cake and want to eat it to. With technology you can now have text messaging, email, IM and BBM all a touch away with a smartphone. Its hard for the next person not to think the enivitable, okay well he's constantly on his keypad and its constantly vibrating at 230 am. I mean, if you feel your partner is cheating on you and you have absolutely no other choice but to go through their phone, I think you already know what you need to do, prepare yourself emotionally and deal with it. I just feel that if you suspect it... you need to make a sound decision to either move on or approach your partner and have a civil conversation about how you feel. Why hurt you self and go through there phone. Sometimes you may find things that you are not ready to handle, such as half naked pics of another female or a lusty text message of how your man puts it down on the next woman! Thats just too much drama!
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i love your blogs mah you need to have a relationship column or something, but i feel you on the phone privacy, i tell a bitch like this if you look through my phone dont act like you dont already know. Keep writing cutie.
Vegas, Men are the same way! You cant trust them as far as you throw them!! Lil text sex here and there... my man would be a damn fool to try half the shit I see male associates doing...true story a guy told me a few years back, dont text me no crazy shit..ill wake up with a knife in my chest from woman! whooooaaa buddy!! see ya'll no damn good!!!
Lex I love you but you women are just as sneaky yet conieving! A girl Im seeing now is in the industry she always uses work as an excuse...it will be 330a and shes getting a ping from her "client" sure okay! Im giving her enough rope to hang herself and then Im going in, the blackberry!
Whats the point in snooping if you gonna go be tight after you look. You looking for something to get tight at. How do girls feel when they snoop and they dont find nothing?!
Lexi! First of all- for your own protection you better put that lock on your phone! all of them! not just to avoid the peepers but if you lose that badboy you are screwed. all your personal shit could potentially be exposed by a stranger or your worst enemy! i know I have a lot of shit I wouldn't want on blast!!! More importatly- i feel like if youre in a committed relationship there should be no secrets but boundries. if someone is looking thru ur fone to see what ur up to- then they're is obviously an internal confliction that needs to be ironed out to go any further. at the same time- both people need to trust each other- and respect each other's privacy. balance is neccessry- too much of anything is never good. i would explain that to your man see what he feels about that.
Oh word, I really thought about the lock on that bad boy for security reasons but lets stick to the hypotheticals of partners going through our phones, its whack and for all you who do it, it cut it out!!!! dont get me wrong Im not in that situation now...Im single people I dont have to explain shit to anyone!! yay for me!! hahaha!!! wink wink!!!
I agree stay out of my phone! I hate that!
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